How to Have a Hassle-free Wedding
Let's face it. If you want to be the footstomping bridezilla center of attention you can be.
On the other hand, if you would sincerely like to have a wonderful wedding where love is the theme and serenity and fun are the emotions of the day, you CAN have it!
- Acknowledge that weddings (like real life) can't be scripted and rarely run entirely as planned.
- Put away micromanagement. You simply can't FORCE all the details to come together under some master plan you imagine "should work."
- Trust your planner, helper or property site point person. The actually DO know what they can manage to pull off and what won't work or is unreasonable to ask. They are not being bitchy, they are being realistic. So, don't expect potted plants in a small town where there are none to rent, blue skies during the wetest spring in history or expect your wacko aunt to behave "just this once." None of this is going to happen.
This doesn't mean lower your expectations. It means first of all rent a location which understands all this. And most of all understands that turmoil on such a wonderful day is just plain ridiculous.
Communicate your needs, choose your helpers and planners, vendors and lenders wisely then enjoy all the pampering you will recieve on your special day--while the chosen ones make your wedding happen. The most important thing you can do is TRUST them. They are your friends, right??
In addition, choose the ingredients wisely. Going over budget is another source of stress. Few can afford that fairytale coach with 10 white horses. Won't a white limo do?
From the start, pick your colors, your theme, your time of day and who will stand up with you wisely. Bridesmaids and ushers are there to do a job--wait on the bride and move guests around. Attendants with no function are simply party animals waiting to make trouble. Forget it. Reduce the number. Honor all your "best friends" with special toasts or put on a very special "girl friends luncheon" instead. They'll thank you for this later. Trust me.
Be open about your budget to those helping plan this event. Money IS at the root of all stress, all evil and all joy. A beautiful event can be creative without being expensive. Let those who know how to do it help you.
Lastly, consider a destination wedding. There is no easier way to get rid of the dead weight of the people you "think" you have to invite than moving ghe wedding hundreds of miles out of town. And, hey, when you get back, those girl friends can put on one heck of a 'wedding party" for you.... more fun and less stress.
Authored By: Judy Hotchkiss, innkeeper and weddng coordinator I designed and built a special wedding room for special events which we call The Pavilion Room and Gallery (foyer). We have a patio and a wedding garden with a mountain view. Our historic inn (c.1889) was a country home. it's grand style lent itself to a B&B with five luxury rooms with private baths, many with fireplaces and whirlpool tubs. We make a great honeymoon location as well as a destination wedidng site. Over the years I've become adept at planning the producing "smaller" size weddings. "Smaller" to me means under 65 guests. We also do a dozen Elopements for Two each year ( no guests). Prospect Hill www.prospect-hill.com