Wedding Guest List Tips

Having some conflict while trying to decide on a guestlist for your wedding?

Here are some tips on how to keep the peace and still have the crowd you want.

• Choose your battles, be firm, but give in if it's a small issue and it looks like emotions are running wild. Arguments aren't worth winning if they mean you and your mom aren't speaking.
• Divvy the peeps evenly. If your parents want to invite 30 friends, then you should give your groom's folks the same option.
• Ditch the "AND GUEST" pals who don't have a long term love can attend solo. Tell singles that space is tight.
• Skip your co-workers. If you don't hang with your colleagues outside of the office, leave them off the list. If you can though, invite your boss or assistant.
• Cut the munchkins. Be clear and consistent if you're asking parents to leave their kids at home, for example, make a "NOBODY UNDER 18" or "JUST NIECES AND NEPHEWS" rule.
• Avoid the chain gangs. If putting just one person on your list, compels you to add the six others you associate with him or her, then drop them all.
• Stagger the invitations. This tip is our least favourite, but if it will keep you from strangling your parents, or his, try it: Have an A-list of "Must be Invited People", and a B-list of "It would be Nice to Have People".
• Send A-list invites out about 10 weeks before the wedding. For every regret, mail out a B-list invite. Don't send a B-lister out later than one month before the big day.